A story of mine:
When I was in middle school I bought this sweet jacket, it had a reversible red vest inside, which had a black side and a bright red side. The red side was way stylish, but too cool for me to wear to school, however, I was in the mall one day and so I flipped it, red side out. I happened to be in Walgreen’s when an old lady came up to me and asked me if I could show her where the pepto bismol was. You can imagine my embarrassment, she had mistaken me, the cool middle schooler with the red vest, for a Walgreen’s employee. It was a case of mistaken identity, that ended only in my own embarrassment. Needless to say I never wore my vest red side out again.
Now, imagine if you couldn’t change your identity with just the flip of your vest… And, the mistaken identity resulted sometimes in more then just embarrassment.
Also, for some inordinate reason, white people often seem to mistake me for an employee of home improvement stores. Hello! No orange apron! (But every once in a while I like to answer the questions anyway.) Maybe it’s the tape measure and the manly stride. A white woman once abusively screamed that she wanted to see my manager RIGHT NOW because she did not feel I was helpful. Even after she found out she was mistaken, she did not have the grace to apologize.
There are a lot of stories both in the post and in the comments section. You absolutely must read this post, get a glimpse of what kind of regular encounters people of color tend to have with white people.
Read here. (ht. Ally Work)
And, once your done reading and realize something must be done about this. Read Ally Work’s post on Qualities of an Ally.