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The Next PostSecret… Sharing our Feelings on Race

I mentioned this last week, but my readers jumped off on a discussion about other things in the post, which was great and enjoyable, but made me want to mention this again.
Something that troubles me in dicussing race and racism is that we are often (like in many other areas) poor listeners. We tend to have a lot to say regardless of how important it really is or how much it affects us. Like you learn in any basic communication class sharing your feelings is perfectly okay and important. It’s also important to listen to one another. The typical statement you’ll here suggested is the famous, “I Feel…When You…” It allows you to share what your feeling based on the others action and focuses on your feeling rather then just yelling or pointing out their action (the “You ALWAYS do this…” types of statements).

Martin Luther King day is just around the corner and I thought it would be neat to have a site dedicated to sharing our feelings about Race and Racism in a constructive way. The site IfeelWhenYou has been up for less then a week now and the traffic to it is slowly increasing. Traffic doubled yesterday and there looks to be even more today. Many people are coming back and browsing through the confessions to read what people have written. The statements are anonymous, so there is no way to react you just listen. You can post your own statements to and I’d encourage you to do so.

Radiant Magazine and sexist assumptions

I’ve written for RelevantMagazine.com a number of times now. It’s a decent magazine, targeting 20-somethings with a focus on God, Life, and Progressive Culture. They have a lot of movie and music reviews and they try and stay on top of the latest trends.
Radiant Ad
Recently, the folks at Relevant started promoting a new magazine they would be releasing entitled, Radiant. Radiant Magazine as you can see from the site is geared towards women. What’s so terrible about a magazine geared specifically towards women? Nothing; the terrible thing is that it implies, that Relevant was/is geared toward men. I am not saying Relevant was, or is, a men’s magazine, I’m saying their choice of wording implies that it was.

Take a look at the ad for Radiant on Relevant’s homepage. It says, “It’s Our Turn Now.” Does this mean that Relevant was the “men’s” turn? Clearly the approach towards this new magazine does reveal that assumption (just like so much of our culture). Why wasn’t Relevant a level place for men and women? Why can’t guy’s learn to take turns in the same place, rather then forcing women to go off on their own to have a voice?

If Relevant is a magazine for 20-something males it should say MALES outright. Personally, I don’t think they had any intent for Relevant to be a ‘male’ mag, it’s their choice of wording that hint at the sort of assumption that ‘normal’ or ‘regular’ means male or oriented towards men.

Here I am a male ranting about these things, Do any females want to chime in?

Increased web traffic

I’ve been struggling with whether or not I’ve been posting too much and I’m interested in hearing your feedback.
I did take a chance to look at some other feedback, my webstats.
Minus the weeks where I forgot to add the webstats code, it seems like I’ve averaged a little over 100 unique visitors a week (I’m not quite sure how it defines unique). Anyways, this week we had over 248 unique visitors, 578 page views, 136 first time visitors and 58 returning visitors. That’s not too bad, at least better then what I was looking for.

But seriously, What do you think of the amount of posts this week?

No sweat

After writing my post about shopping I realized it was important to promote to folks an alternative to the Walmart’s and other companies with inhumane practices that we learn about.

I present:

No Sweat Apparel.com

I’ve talked with the owner and he seems pretty cool.  I’m actually going to email him again and see if he would be interested in doing an interview with me that I could podcast.  Is there an interest in that?

I think I’m going to start a seperate page on the iamnotashamed.net site to serve as a store front for Fair Trade items, specifically clothing and other necessities.

The Joys of keylogger

I’d just written a brilliant and funny short post during a quick 10 minute break I have here, when my computer decided to hiccup and forget I ever typed anything. Seeing as I’m at work and I’ve neglected to download a keylogger, I experienced the horrible feeling that so many folks across the globe feel every so often, I lost my work.
Why haven’t I experienced that feeling in so long? Why, you might ask, did I go through college without ever lamenting over a lost paper, and staying up till 3AM to catch up? Oh, the joys of keylogger.
Now, just a disclaimer, keyloggers do qualify as spyware, and if your not careful you’ll delete them everytime you clean up your computer with your Spyware Checkers. But, keylogger’s also record every key you press (as it’s doing right now). And when that webpage decides to reject you, you can just hop over and copy and paste that sucker back in. I’ve used Family Keylogger for quite a while, but I’m currently trying out Emsa Save my Work. I’d recommend either for Everyone.

Why I don’t shop at Walmart

Why I Don't Shop at WalmartThis topic always draws a lot of feedback. The thing is from the moment someone starts to talk, or write, you usually have a good idea what side of the fence they are on. I fear-and I’m speaking about myself too-that too often we are choosing what side of the fence we want to be on, and then just finding evidence to back it up. Maybe it’s cause you had a bunch of liberal friends, or you hung out with the grunge crowd, some external pressure just decided for you that you hated Walmart, and since then you’ve found all kinds of reasons why this is true. For others it’s their republican upbringing, their support of “Christian” values, or their love of low prices that swayed their decision and now they’ve found all kinds of reasons to support that choice. Honestly, I probably fall into one of those categories, but give me a minute to share with you why I personally avoid Walmart.

At some point in my movement towards maturity, I recognized the significance of personal responsibility. I realized that with any situation, regardless of the reasons behind it or circumstances concerning it, my involvement (or passive silence) would show my support for it. If something is against the rules, and I say nothing about it, I show my support for it. If my government, of which I am a part, makes a decision and I say nothing about it, I support it. I need to take responsibility for those things. If I am ever confronted on those things (and I have this strange feeling I might be), I will not be able to pass blame like Adam did, I will be held accountable for my decisions.

I’ve definitely made poor decisions in the past. I remember being in high school and seeing a sign posted above a drinking fountain in the hallway. Walmart and Sweatshops was the topic, and I passed it by without a second thought. Interesting that I can remember that now, but it had no bearing on me then. For a number of years I had been aware of this, and I did nothing.

At some point later, maybe after I had been exposed to some facts, seen some video, and been confronted a few more times, I realized that important lesson on personal responsibility. Suddenly, the weight of the responsibility was heavy on me. I never went through a research project of weighing the Pros and Cons of Walmart. To be honest most of this debate about whether Walmart is good or bad seems to miss the point for me. I’m not saying it doesn’t have significance, but it gets us into a balance game, and I’m not interested in that.

This is the one fact that disturbs me. Close your eyes. Think about the shirt you are wearing. Trace it back through the store you bought it from, back past being packaged, past being shipped, and to the place it was stitched and sewn together. I’m terrified when I do that and I see a small child, dirty and weary from 18 hours a day of labor, looking into my eyes and awaiting an explanation. What will I say to that little girl? What does taking responsibility mean for me there?

I cannot in good conscience buy from a store where I am aware that that is where the items came from. Does Walmart employ sweatshops? I’m not sure, but I’ve heard evidence of it, and the mere possibility scares me. Do other Stores employ sweatshops? Probably many other stores do, and as I become aware of them, my purchasing decisions and opportunities will become more and more difficult; But that in NO way allows me to disregard my responsibility. Do ALL stores employ sweatshops? I do not believe so. I know of a number of fair trade clothing stores whose goal and focus is to be sweatshop free.

I’m not advocating a boycott; I don’t know enough about economics, etc to make a strong decision on that. I do think that when a company like Walmart is in the news for bad practices, it should affect our spending habits. When Martha Stewart goes to jail our continued purchases send the message that we don’t care about her breaking the law. When we read that Coca-Cola has been polluting the water in India, our continued purchasing sends the message that we do not care. I long for someone with much more brilliance then I to come along and give me a plan for making choices and organizing in a way that will affect change for the good. Are you that person?

I leave you with this. As a friend, I want to admonish you. I am aware of some facts that might or might not be true about Walmart. Please stop shopping there until you have examined the facts. [facts to be found on your own, so as to avoid any bias on this site]

Sharing our feelings on race

Every so often something comes up that brings race and racism to the fore front of many people’s minds. For many these topics are often at the forefront, for some of us white folk it sits absent in the back of our mind until something comes up.

For a lot of people I know, the issue recently came up, prompted by two different events. First, the issue of race was starkly brought up around the events of Hurricane Katrina. If folks didn’t pick up on it from the get-go, they most certainly did after Kanye West made his bold confession on national television. One of the major issues was the bias (though a LOT of people disagree on this) news stories. Also, for those with a little awareness, the clear overwhelming majority of people that where stuck in New Orleans and the slow response of aid should have been disturbing both from an economic and racial perspective.

Second, the movie Crash recently came out on DVD and was viewed by a number of my friends. It is a very in-your-face approach to a lot of race issues and problems. The movie lacks any clear attempt at a solution and that has both a positive and a negative effect. I think on a positive note, they recognized that there is not a simple solution and to attempt to convey one might come across as naive or ignorant. At the same time, the lack of any solution presented leaves some people feeling that there isn’t any solutions, but also that that is then okay and acceptable. I worry that too many people left that movie feeling that that is just the way life is, and that we are all good people in the end, so we shouldn’t make a big deal out of it.

I’m a well-to-do white male, so I’m the last person to be spouting my thoughts and opinions on race, but I will take every opportunity to speak up and add a voice to the cry for justice. There is FAR too much racism in the world today. We must all rise up to the challenge and respond. Do not sit silently as you hear a racist joke, speak up, at the expense of your own reputation, it must be stopped.

In light of all this, I was very interested in providing a way for people to share their personal feelings about race, and about how others have treated them in regard to race. I’ve always found the statement promoted for communication and conflict resolution: “I feel…When you…” I’ve put together a small website for people to have the opportunity to share those feelings and put them out in the open for others to read and learn from. Please stop by and add your feelings.

[Sharing your Feelings on race: “I Feel…When You…”]

Podcasting in the works

After a confusing hiatus from podcasting (or properly posting our podcast), we have an official show in the works.  I, Ariah, will be joined by my brilliant and funny co-host Zach Swee for what we hope will be a regular weekly podcast.

We are open to having the podcast cover a wide range of topics from technology to faith.  I hope that it will be entertaining for everyone that listens and also informative.  Right now I think we are blessed to have at least 1 known subscriber (made props to Scotty).  We hope that increases in the next couple weeks.

For now since you are one of the few who are getting the inside scoop, we could use your help.  We need a name for our podcast.  Zach mentioned one in a previous podcast, but we’d like to hear if you have any brilliant ideas.  We also need some input on our theme music.  Let us know if it’s good or ridiculous.

We leave you with a bonus podcast, this should hold you over till our next official one tomorrow:

Bonus podcast

Thinking about “charity”

Not being in school any longer I have to go to a little more effort to learn new things.  One of my joys is hearing what my friends are learning or researching in their schooling.  My friend Ben has been taking an Old Testament studies class and has heard some interesting presentations.  One of them was about Maimonides’ Eight Levels of Charity from the Mishneh.

It’s an extremely interesting way to look at giving and for us to consider our motives.  

  1. The greatest level is helping someone enough that they no longer need help.  I wonder if sponsoring a child might possibly fall into this category.  Other then that these stories are more rare then I would imagine.  I would hope to find more opportunity to do this in my life.
  2. Anonymous giving through a trustworthy administrator is given the second highest status.  I find this surprising since it seems to divorce our giving from our personal relationships, which I’m not sure is a good thing.  At the same time this does encourage giving to the many organizations that help our neighbors overseas.
  3. Anonymously giving to someone you know.
  4. Giving anonymously, though the receiver knows his benefactor. I’m unsure how they decided the order of levels 3 and 4, but I’m glad they differentiated them no less. 
  5. Giving directly into the hand of someone in need WITHOUT being asked. I like the specifics of this one being giving directly into the persons hand.  There doesn’t seem to be much disclaimer on this, and there shouldn’t be.  I do recall stories of people trying to help someone without being asked where the person took offense, or didn’t really need anything, but they are rare.  The majority of the time we are scrooges until someone makes a request of us (I know because I am horrible at this).
  6. Giving after being asked. This, if I’m not mistaken, is the way the vast majority of us give
  7. Giving INADEQUATELY, but gladly. And I think we ALL do this one a lot of the time.
  8. Giving unwillingly. Yeah, not so noble.

What do you think of these categories?