I pulled up an article from February that does a good job of concisely articulating the dilemma of marriage in the African American community. This is another one of those things I would encourage you to reserve judgements on and rather take as an opportunity to try and understand a little more a culture that you might be unfamiliar with.
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There are in most 18-and-above age groupings only about eight black men for every 10 black women. This ratio is largely owing to high rates of infant mortality and homicides. Even more alarming, however, is the following bit of information: When incarceration, drug addiction and unemployment are factored in, the number of eligible (marriageable) black men is reduced to about five men for every 10 black eligible women.
These statistics carry with them enormous implications for the formation of black families in the United States and the overall well-being of African Americans in general.