Occasionally, I have the opportunity through some affiliate sites, to review different blogs and websites. This means I in no way am supporting or advocating for a particular site, I’m simply being paid to review that site, both positive and negative.
The following is a paid review:
Before I even post the name and link of the site I’m reviewing, I need to issue a warning. My first opinion on the review is that the picture on the header of the site is troublesome. It’s a portrait shot of a women with a suggestive look. I personally adblocked the picture so it didn’t keep showing up as I browsed through the site. The first step I would take to advocate for ‘Biblical Marriage’ is to avoid putting suggestive pictures on a blog that would cause the men your hoping are reading it from thinking in appropriate thoughts (need I say more)?
Secondly, the blog has an extremely annoying pop-up ad with the same suggestive looking picture advertising an ebook on massage. Again, I find the image a bit troublesome. So, with that warning heeded…
I’m reviewing IgniteHerPassion a blog by a guy named Nick. The blog’s subtitle reads: “Rekindle Her Desire for You – How to Increase Her Libido, Charge Her Sex Drive and Improve Your Sex Life”
Let me start with the things positive things I found concerning the blog:
- Nick writes is an honest and passionate person. This is a topic he cares and feels strongly about and that shows through his writing.
- He uses Bible verses in the context of what he is talking about. I don’t necessarily agree with all of them, but the fact is he’s giving Biblical backing to his thoughts, and it gives you the opportunity to read and discern for yourself whether these are the interpretations you would come to.
- The audience of this blog is not just Christians. I think this is a huge positive for the blog. Since he’s talking to a general audience he’s not seeking to reach one particular segment of people (those who read the Bible and believe it as authoritative) and so the way he talks about topics is more appropriate since it’s filling a niche for anyone seeking advice on these topics.
But, I do have a few critiques, which include the following:
- The stock images chosen for the site are completely inappropriate. I understand the need to appeal to a male audience, but if a site is going to serve as an example of rekindling relationships, it should start by not putting enticing images up. (the pop-up ad is annoying too).
- I’m reviewing from my personal opinion and viewpoint and as such I need to address the attempts at a ‘Biblical perspective.’ The first thing I would say is that the focus is all wrong. As Christians we are to selflessly love and care for one another. So, the focus on ‘Increase her Libido, charge her sex drive’ should be for her sake, not for the man’s, but it’s quite obvious that’s not the case. Basically, a lot of what is written is extremely ‘unbiblical’ in that it is focused on the selfishly getting what you want, rather then selflessly serving your spouse.
- The blog begins to feel even less Biblical when you recognize that the Bible verses are only occasionally used to illustrate points, not focused on as an authoritative source. This blog is more of a self-help book for a sexually fulfilling marriage (not necessarily a problem) than it is in any way a ‘Biblical’ perspective on marriage.
Final Review:
Despite my negative comments, I think this is a pretty decent overall blog. Nick has some great ideas guys can do to show their wives that they love them, and if you do it lovingly and expecting nothing in return, then it’s a fairly ‘Biblical’ approach as well. I think the blog has mass appeal to any guy looking to build a strong marriage, regardless of your religious background. My only concern to anyone reading the blog is some of the choices in images, they aren’t terrible, just not what you’d expect to find on a blog focused on helping marriages. Enjoy!
Thank you for your honest and straightforward review of my blog. I think it is honest and fair. I really appreciate your comments and take them to heart.
Honestly, I went back and forth about the two images I picked for the site. I wanted to appeal to the masses and attract men to the site – and the blog is about passion in marriage. I have been considering changing them from the start.
This is the first objective review (by someone other than a friend) that I have received. So you have helped me to make up my mind – I think that if my images are that offensive, I will change them. I don’t want to offend, but I also want to be true to the IgniteHerPassion’s purpose.
As to the selfish goals of IgniteHerPassion. The nature of man is to be selfish. And if an appeal to that selfishness can lead to an understanding that to get what you want, you must let go of what you want, then great. The selfish goals with new understanding can lead to selflessness. So – my goal is to show men that if they DO selflessly and lovingly serve their wives and have NO expectations, the results will be a stronger marriage – and the intimacy will follow and be what they need. Is having your needs met and the needs of the marriage met selfish?
The fact is that if one spouse has a low or no libido, it can cause serious problems in the marriage. And my hope is to show to both Christians and non-Christians that the Bible has the answers – or at the very least, get non-Christians to begin on a path of being less selfish. AND my goal is to show men HOW to serve their wives with creative romantic ideas and examples of loving service and a loving selfless attitude.
By nature, the site cannot be wholly Biblical – it does not claim to be – but it is based on Biblical marriage principals – the rest is my personal take on things and my personal ideas and experiences. So you’re right – it is more of a self help book with some Biblical guide posts to keep it on the right track. I honestly want to help people rekindle the passion in their marriages – because marriage should be happy and last a lifetime.
PS: As for pop-up the ad – I am experimenting with ways to market the free e-book I wrote (which is pretty much a self help book with Biblical guide posts, too). The pop-up only shows up once. It’s just a test. It’s not doing well. I will be trying different less annoying options very soon.
Again – thank you for your review and your honesty.
~ Nick