Paid Review: A Blog for Men about ‘Biblical Marriage’

Occasionally, I have the opportunity through some affiliate sites, to review different blogs and websites. This means I in no way am supporting or advocating for a particular site, I’m simply being paid to review that site, both positive and negative.

The following is a paid review:

Before I even post the name and link of the site I’m reviewing, I need to issue a warning. My first opinion on the review is that the picture on the header of the site is troublesome. It’s a portrait shot of a women with a suggestive look. I personally adblocked the picture so it didn’t keep showing up as I browsed through the site. The first step I would take to advocate for ‘Biblical Marriage’ is to avoid putting suggestive pictures on a blog that would cause the men your hoping are reading it from thinking in appropriate thoughts (need I say more)?
Secondly, the blog has an extremely annoying pop-up ad with the same suggestive looking picture advertising an ebook on massage. Again, I find the image a bit troublesome. So, with that warning heeded…
I’m reviewing IgniteHerPassion a blog by a guy named Nick. The blog’s subtitle reads: “Rekindle Her Desire for You – How to Increase Her Libido, Charge Her Sex Drive and Improve Your Sex Life”
Let me start with the things positive things I found concerning the blog:

  • Nick writes is an honest and passionate person. This is a topic he cares and feels strongly about and that shows through his writing.
  • He uses Bible verses in the context of what he is talking about. I don’t necessarily agree with all of them, but the fact is he’s giving Biblical backing to his thoughts, and it gives you the opportunity to read and discern for yourself whether these are the interpretations you would come to.
  • The audience of this blog is not just Christians. I think this is a huge positive for the blog. Since he’s talking to a general audience he’s not seeking to reach one particular segment of people (those who read the Bible and believe it as authoritative) and so the way he talks about topics is more appropriate since it’s filling a niche for anyone seeking advice on these topics.

But, I do have a few critiques, which include the following:

  • The stock images chosen for the site are completely inappropriate. I understand the need to appeal to a male audience, but if a site is going to serve as an example of rekindling relationships, it should start by not putting enticing images up. (the pop-up ad is annoying too).
  • I’m reviewing from my personal opinion and viewpoint and as such I need to address the attempts at a ‘Biblical perspective.’ The first thing I would say is that the focus is all wrong. As Christians we are to selflessly love and care for one another. So, the focus on ‘Increase her Libido, charge her sex drive’ should be for her sake, not for the man’s, but it’s quite obvious that’s not the case. Basically, a lot of what is written is extremely ‘unbiblical’ in that it is focused on the selfishly getting what you want, rather then selflessly serving your spouse.
  • The blog begins to feel even less Biblical when you recognize that the Bible verses are only occasionally used to illustrate points, not focused on as an authoritative source. This blog is more of a self-help book for a sexually fulfilling marriage (not necessarily a problem) than it is in any way a ‘Biblical’ perspective on marriage.

Final Review:
Despite my negative comments, I think this is a pretty decent overall blog. Nick has some great ideas guys can do to show their wives that they love them, and if you do it lovingly and expecting nothing in return, then it’s a fairly ‘Biblical’ approach as well. I think the blog has mass appeal to any guy looking to build a strong marriage, regardless of your religious background. My only concern to anyone reading the blog is some of the choices in images, they aren’t terrible, just not what you’d expect to find on a blog focused on helping marriages. Enjoy!

YouTubesday: A Collection of Shorts

Again, no set cohesive theme, but I had a lot of short snippets I thought I’d share, that you might find interesting. I’ll try and give a brief description of each. (the numbers in parenthesis are about how long each clip is. i.e. 1:00 is one minute)

“Kill’em with Kindness”, a short photo montage with some sermon words about in the background (3:45) (ht Gavin)

The Year of Living Biblically- a short video about AJ Jacobs who tried to live following all the rules of the Bible for a year (3:24)

Interesting PSA (Public Service Announcement) about discrimination (1:00)

This guy shop-drops his book and it becomes a success! (1:00)

A funny thought on ‘Church attendance’ (:30)

The Revolving Door Of Washington

Not to get too political on you, but I participated in a cool little project by Sunlight Foundation today that I thought I’d tell you about. Sunlight Foundation is all about bringing transparency to Washington (the government) and they are doing some very innovative things to do it.
The project I helped with is called ‘Where Are They Now?’ and the website describes it as:

The 109th Congress closed up shop nearly one year ago.
For those top staff members whose bosses resigned, retired or were voted out of office, the one year “cooling off period”–during which they are not allowed to lobby their former colleagues on Capitol Hill–is coming to an end. Lower level staffers have been able to work the Hill all year. Let’s see which staffers of former members have gone through the revolving door.

Basically, they are seeking to point out the close ties between elected government officials and the powerful lobbyist just down the street from them. What we are finding is that there are a lot of Congregational staff members who after leaving office have gone to work for those lobbyist firms. To put it another way, government staff are being bought by lobbyist who are offering them jobs (=money and power) in return for buying their votes in the Congress.

The ‘Where Are They Now?’ site is very well put together, and I’ve been making calls to Lobbyist firms checking to confirm that some of their new staff are indeed the same staff of Congress members who left office one year ago (the one year rule is to prevent this very thing from happening).

Take a visit yourself and do you part for government transparency by making some phone calls.

Also Of Interest:

An Excerpt from “Giving Up”

I’m getting quite close to having a completed novel. I’m not set, but I believe the title is going to be “Giving Up.” I thought, as a devotional today, that I would post an excerpt from the book. Obviously, you don’t know the characters or context, but this dialog about the teachings of Christ should be interesting to you either way:

As the sun rose over the horizon and shined into the large windows in their living room, Carter opened the little book, ‘The Teachings of Christ.’ It was a new day and a new journey. Both Carter and Julie’s heart beat with excitement as they prepared themselves to follow the teachings of this great philosopher of old, regardless of how counter-cultural it may be.

The first words of Jesus’ teachings was his introduction, the reading of a poem of old:

“The Spirit of the Lord is on me,
because he has anointed me
to preach good news to the poor.
He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners
and recovery of sight for the blind,
to release the oppressed,
to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.”

If there was one thing Carter had to acknowledge from the beginning, it was that the teachings where not necessarily directed to him. It wasn’t that the teachings of Christ weren’t for Julie and him, rather they were in a unique audience, not necessarily the primary audience. It didn’t take that much reflection to realize they were not poor, prisoners, blind, or oppressed. And, as Carter and Julie kept reading they realized the unique position they where in:

“Blessed are you who are poor,
for yours is the kingdom of God.
Blessed are you who hunger now,
for you will be satisfied.
Blessed are you who weep now,
for you will laugh.
Blessed are you when men hate you,
when they exclude you and insult you
and reject your name as evil, because of the Son of Man.

“Rejoice in that day and leap for joy, because great is your reward in heaven.

For that is how their fathers treated the prophets.
“But woe to you who are rich,
for you have already received your comfort.
Woe to you who are well fed now,
for you will go hungry.
Woe to you who laugh now,
for you will mourn and weep.
Woe to you when all men speak well of you,
for that is how their fathers treated the false prophets.

“Well, that’s not a very encouraging way to start.” Said Carter, “I don’t consider us rich, or I hadn’t until it’s put in this contrast. We definitely aren’t poor or hungry so clearly he’s saying that we’ve got to watch out because we are rich and well fed. He’s just lucky I’m a committed person, because otherwise I’d drop this quick and before he even got to saying anything.”

“But Carter, I think his intention is just to be real and cast a new vision, different then the one you’ve been chasing. He’s got a whole speech after this, and it’s directed to everyone, regardless of if your being blessed or ‘woed.’ He’s giving us a clear warning, which I think is good. I mean, if a tornado was going to hit our house, you’d want someone to tell you right? If we’ve been living our lives chasing after false things, like riches our whole lives, it’s good we finally found someone who is going to tell it like it is.”

“Your right that it’s a new vision. I mean this is completely backwards to everything in our society, let alone all of history. Poor people rule the kingdom? And I’m the one that has to be careful cause I have too much stuff? This is a big paradigm shift.
I’ve got an idea.
This is way different then I’m used to normally thinking. You know, if I have a big wig coming to the office, I do a lot more to prepare for him then I would for say, the janitor in the building. Yet, if this is true, the ones we should be treating as royalty are the poor, not the rich. I was thinking, if we made a list of ‘important’ people, maybe we could better keep this in our minds through out the day.” And with that, Carter and Julie made a list of the poor and oppressed of their society:

Important People

* Minorities
* Women
* Children
* Immigrants
* Elderly

“You know,” Julie said, “what’s interesting, is that Jesus doesn’t make any qualifications on what type of poor people the kingdom belongs to. My tendency would be to say, ‘poor people who didn’t become that way by their own poor decision making.’ Like take the kids with us right now. They are poor, but then again, they are just kids, and I’ve already seen how few chances they’ve had. What I’ve also realized through spending time with them, is that minorities, both kids and adults, face a lot of obstacles I’d never realized or considered before. I know, you might not believe me when I say this, but just thinking about these kids lives, the stories they tell, and the little history I know about our country, it’s become so obvious to me how much our favoritism has oppressed minorities.”

30 Sermons You’d Never Hear in Church

The pews are filled, the preacher is out of town, and the pulpit is all yours. You step up to the old wooden bulwark. Everyone is quiet. You’ve been rehearsing this in your mind for years. You pause, steady your voice, let a slight smirk spread across your lips, and begin. . . .

Here’s your chance to pound the pulpit. In a world of super-powered faith, extremist religion, extremely commercialized church and atheist resurgence what word shall be spoken to the faithful? In a world of polarization, energy addiction, disparity and restless souls, what word do the faithful have for the rest of humanity?

Whether you’re an amateur prophet, ranting atheist, wily Buddhist, social gospel evangelist, caring shepherd of the flock or a bona-fide preacher with something too hot for Sunday morning, Geez issue 10 is your soap box.

You’ve got 750 words to exhort, inspire, pontificate, dream, console, convert, instruct, encourage, admonish or beseech. If you wish, suggest a brief lectionary reading–Biblical or other–to accompany your sermon.

Prizes:
1st $500
2nd $400
3rd $300

We’ll include the winners and a selection of runners-up among the 30 sermons in the Summer ’08 issue of Geez magazine.

Entry fee: $33
(Includes a one year subscription to Geez, or extension of your current subscription. Multiple submissions accepted: $15 for each additional entry, subscription applies to first entry only.)

Deadline: March 31, 2008

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Friday Frugal Food Meme

I’ve rarely done these ‘Meme’ things, so I hope I’m even using the term right. I wanted to do one today because I was curious of the input of others into the category of ‘Frugal’ Food, as in cheap cooking. So, I’ll just jump right into the list (I’m making this up as I go along):

  1. Cheapest and Healthiest and Most Delicious Meal You’ve Made: Curry Lentils (recipe courtesy of my friends the Haynes)
  2. Cheapest Dessert recipe You’ve Made: Apple Crisp, especially if you dumpster the apples (introduced to me by Amanda)
  3. Cheapest Meal for a Large Group of People: Spaghetti (Anyone whose been to our house knows this is my specialty for guest)
  4. Cheapest Vegetarian Meal You’ve Made: This would also be the Lentils for me
  5. Quickest Healthy Meal You’ve Made: Tacos with refried beans and fixin’s

I tag: The Burt’s, Bryan, Meredith, Josh, Joanna

Random Linkage

Don’t know if I’ll make this a regular Thursday thing, but I’ve got to throw a post in every once in a while with an assortment of random links for your enjoyment. Here you are:

  • Miller takes on the ethical shopping dilemma.
  • Compassion in Politics predicts 2008 the Year of the Editor.
  • Josh Brown tackles our wayward patriotism.
  • You have to check out The Decapatator:

    A little gruesome but extremely creative anti-advertising campaign. Some great photoshopping skillz. [via] and [via]
  • This is what I’m going to do next time I’m called for Jury Duty. Brilliant. And I mean that in a “wow I never thought to take my Christian thinking and apply it to that part of life” sort of brilliance, not a “how to get out of Jury Duty” sort of brilliance.
  • Bart Campolo‘s take on the Bible.
  • And I leave you with a quote [via, via & via]:

“There’s one thing left: Go sell whatever you own and give it to the poor. All your wealth will then be heavenly wealth. And come follow Me.”

The man’s face clouded over, as this was the last thing he expected to hear. Suddenly, he had an idea.

“But Teacher, what if we try this: I’ll stay here with the way things are, I’ll keep all my stuff, and I’ll tell people it’s a blessing from You! It’s a win-win for both of us—I get to maintain my lifestyle, and You end up looking good! What do You think?”